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A week has passed since I learned Transcendental Meditation (TM) and I’ve noticed feeling less tired and having a more ‘get up and go’ than normal. Twenty minutes twice a day seems a lot but I notice really looking forward to each session and I seem to have more energy in the evenings than before. Here has been my week:
Saturday – Drove for 3 hours, learned TM, drove home 3 hours feeling more focused, more alert than I have for four years.
Sunday – Best nights sleep in a long time and up at 5am feeling good. A three-hour drive to Bristol for day two of TM course and then a three-hour drive home. Noticed feeling calm on getting back home even though there were things that would have normally triggered a stress response.
Monday – Another good nights sleep, happily got up at 7am and did 20 min of Yoga followed by TM. Tired during the day and napped midday while watching a TV program with Honey. Drove up to Bristol again for last TM session and felt fine though.
Tuesday – Late night Monday but slept well. Had a lay in and meditated after breakfast. Mediation more difficult as River barking and Honey shouting, after session disturbed by Honey shouting even though Debbie is telling to be quieter. Felt grumpy most of the day. “Sound is no barrier to meditation” maybe but quietness seems to help me.
Wednesday – up at 7 for yoga and TM nice day in the garden, good meditation sessions, felt good in myself.
Thursday – up early for Yoga and TM, a nice day at Saltrum House with the family. While waiting for Honey to fall asleep I felt really ‘in the moment’, filled with a contented joy. Not experienced that since soon after Honey was born.
Friday – up at 6am for Yoga & TM. Good session. Felt grumpy about my lack of drumming skill but acted on it and contacted someone about lessons. That is something I have been procrastinating about for months.
Sat – up at 7.15 for yoga and TM. Busy day but felt I had more patience with Honey and everyone for that matter!
Watch this space to see how things progress…
So it’s three days after my initial introduction to Transcendental Meditation and I’m still impressed with the benefits.
Yesterday I was tired during the day and actually napped while Honey watched something on TV. That’s ok though, my Teacher Mike reminded me of how we can all feel tired for the first few days of a long awaited holiday. I had forgotten that feeling but remembered it well from my days as an ICT Teacher. On reaching the summer holidays I would often feel a relaxed, contented kinda tiredness and that’s how I felt yesterday. It felt good, not a guilty thought in my mind 🙂
My last session was in the evening, with holiday traffic it took almost 5 hours to do what should have been 3. Interesting final session though on Transcendental Meditation and consciousness. We watched several clips including this one by David Lynch:
For me, finishing on ideas and theories about consciousness was a nice end to the course, as the subject is something I have been reading so much on lately.
Thankfully the drive home was much quicker than the drive there so I was home by 12:15. Well worth the time.
Last night I once again had a very deep sleep and woke to feel rested, even though I was in a sleeping bag on the lounge floor!
It’s just two days after learning and beginning to practice TM and so far I’m impressed. Today’s Monday and learned Transcendental Meditation on Saturday afternoon. Yesterday I had two group sessions led by my teacher Mike. These really deepened my understanding of Transcendental Meditation and helped me to understand why it is different from any form of meditation I have previously done.
It was a long day, up at 5am to get to the course for 10am, three hours driving to get there and then three hours to get back home again at the end of the day. Debbie was tired out after spending the day with her family so I drove most of the way home. It seemed much easier than normal, easier to stay focused on driving.
We got home to find my Dad had left the grill and the top oven on (they are the same thing!?!) with the oven door shut. There was some cleaning needed too. Our little girl Honey had napped on the way home so although still tired she was not in a hurry to go to bed. All events that would have normally triggered stress for me, but seemed to have less impact, seemed to trigger less negative thoughts.
Surprisingly I just had a wonderful nights sleep. Surprising because Honey ended up in bed with us, which normally means a disturbed night for me and tired grumpy morning.
Although during the night I was aware of her moving around, wrestling for the covers and fidgeting. I slept through it all much better. Perhaps most importantly where I would normally wake, or be woken, feeling tired and grumpy. I actually woke at 7am feeling fairly rested and with the energy to get up and do 20 min of yoga followed by my morning meditation. This is something I have intended to do since Christmas, but simply felt too sleep deprived to actually do it.
I have another long drive tonight for the last session, but I’m looking forward to it.
A cynic (and there is a part of me that is cynical) would say I’m noticing these benefits because the marketing has primed me to notice them, but to be honest I don’t care! 🙂
To find out more about Transcendental Meditation follow the link.
Today I traveled for 3 hours to spend an hour learning Transcendental Meditation (TM). A technique for meditation involving silently repeating a mantra that is specially chosen for you.
I had been really excited about today, but I arrived at the center feeling stressed and grumpy, some would say my normal state these days. Driving in the city after two hours on the motorway is not my idea of fun, but arriving at my destination to find the parking is horrendous, resulted in a fair amount of stress. My mood really plummeted though when I walked up to the venue and found the door locked and a note saying it might take them a while to open it for me! After a three hour drive I had expected to be able to go to the toilet and rest for a few minutes before the course started, so I was rather surprised to be left sitting outside waiting. To match my mood it had even started raining. In fact I went next door and to a Cafe and used their toilet, but still felt rather grumpy and stressed by the time someone (a receptionist?) did open the door for me.
Normally I would have held on to this mood for a while, probably imagining telling everyone how bad I thought it was, but to my surprise when my first hours instruction started, the mood vanished.
Learning TM starts with your teacher performing a brief ceremony of thanks to their teachers. My teacher, Mike, explained that this also reminded him of the many mantras he has been taught, keeping their sound pure in his mind and helps him select one for me. During the ceremony he chanted Sanskrit in a sing song way and then at the end just told me my mantra and asked me to repeat it. I was expecting more, but that was it. He then explained the technique of using the mantra for meditatio and I practiced.
The publicity material is full of testimonials saying how easy TM is, and I was relieved to agree. The publicity material is full of stories from people who have found the practice beneficial too, even the first session, so I was interested to see what would happen for me.
During the meditation I completely lost sense of time, something I normally associate with hypnosis. In some ways it felt like just minutes of meditation, yet I felt as if I had rested for longer. On the drive home I felt wide awake, I also noticed my responses to others being different. Somehow I was not surprised when the Audi A3 cut me up and then wove through the motorway traffic only to get stuck a couple of cars ahead. What was surprising to me was the lack of my negative emotions regarding the event. Sat in the service station I found myself smiling at the antics of a family walking back to their car. It was almost as if I felt their fun rather than being preoccupied with my issues.
You could say that I was primed to notice benefits from the start, which is true. That does not detract to the fact that there were for me, noticeable changes in my reactions.
As suggested by Mike I stopped on the way home and meditated for a further 20 minutes, then continued driving completely refreshed.
It’s only the first session of four, but so far Transcendental Meditation has lived up to expectation.
To find out more about Transcendental Meditation follow the link!
Meditation does not work if you all you do is read about it, it only works when you begin doing it. So let’s see if I can help you begin your meditation practice, because just reading about it and then making those excuses to yourself, you know the ones; “I don’t have time“, “There are too many distractions“, “I can’t stop my thoughts“, “I’ll do it tomorrow…” just means that you are missing out. For that matter so am I, but I will get to that later.
The reality is that learning to meditate is tough, just like learning to drive, ride a bike, or read. The difference is that most people are motivated by the obvious benefits of skills like driving. Motivated enough that they make the effort, make the effort to learn, to practice.
So how much motivation do you need to learn to meditate? Meditation is FREE and offers so many benefits. Along with benefits to your brain’s ability to function, more and more published studies are showing the benefits of meditation to your emotional and physical health. Studies showing reduction in stress, improved immune response, feeling happier, more connected, it’s all there if you like reading such things.
Perhaps what you really need to know is that meditation can be easier than you think..
What is This Post About
Meditation does not need to be difficult. You did not learn to read by looking at Tolkien’s Lord of The Rings and neither do you need to learn to meditate by sitting in lotus position and contemplating the meaning of life for 30 minutes.
You can begin practising meditation in just a couple of minutes a day.
Why Is This Post Important to Me?
Learning to meditate is an important life skill, because it has huge benefits to your emotional and physical health.
Learning to meditate is important, because you are important. I really believe that. Each and every one one of us has the right to be happy and healthy, and, lets face it, the World would be a better place if we all were… happier and healthier. That’s where I get to gain; imagine a world where more and more people are happy, smiling; calm, that is where I would like to live! Learning to meditate will help create that reality for you, of being happier and healthier.
How do I use the Information in this Post?
Meditation is a spiritual practice, not a religious one and these days the spiritual side of our lives is often the most neglected, the most forgotten, the most overlooked. So this is also an area where there are a lot of gains to be easily made.
One of my favourite methods that you can do almost anywhere is the Heartmath Heart Breathing Meditation. Why not have a go now? Here it is:
- Close your eyes and relax into your chair.
- Put your hand over your heart and focus your attention into that area, into those deep chambers in the centre of your chest.
- Breathe deeply but normally and feel as if your breath is coming in and out of your heart area.
- Begin to regulate your breathing to a count of six.
- Breathe for a count of six seconds into your heart space. Breathe for a count of six seconds out of your heart space. Keep breathing in for six and breathing out for six.
- Focus on your heart area and feel the relaxation.
You may be pleasantly surprised at just how quickly you begin to relax.
Alternatively you could just listen to a guided meditation track for as long as you feel comfortable. You could start with the track I’m sharing with those who sign up for my Newsletter. Just start by listening to first few minutes. Listen a few times and you may be pleased that you notice relaxing more and more, listening to just the first few minutes. Then gently and slowly you can listen for a little longer. You may be be pleased at just how quickly you can comfortably relax and listen all the way through.
Let me know how your meditation practice goes! 🙂
If you are a carer there is a good chance your daily experiences may involve a cocktail of stressful feelings such as anger, resentment, guilt, fear etc and we all know what that does to us long term.
I’ve witnessed many ‘support’ groups where people get together and share their problems, but then get stuck in that negative energy. I’ve known people who have said they have walked out of support groups feeling worse than when they walked in. A problem shared is not always a problem halved.
So this group will be different, because we will be using techniques in a group setting so that everyone can relax and let go of any unhelpful emotions. Techniques such as Emotional Freedom Technique, that can be really effective in a group setting. My aim will be for people to leave feeling empowered, feeling more able to cope than when they walked in.
The group will be restricted to around five people per meeting at first, so that we can bond and make a connection. It will also be easier to teach EFT in a small group. Ultimately I’m looking to create a group of around 10 people who can come to meetings as they need. You will need to ‘book’ a place, but this will be possible via the private Facebook page as well as phone etc.
This is a new idea and will be up and running once I know who wants to attend.
You can let me know if you are interested by leaving a message on 01579 308232 (Because of the nature of my one-to-one work I rarely pick up, but always return calls and answer messages etc), sending an email, or contacting my via FaceBook
To be honest, it was not that good. Often it was not monthly. Often it lacked… I was trying to think of the what it lacked, but maybe I had it right with “Often it lacked!”. So we (Debbie still works behind the scenes) decided it was time for a new, better newsletter, one that actually contains something useful. At least useful to ‘some people’, ‘some of the time’.
Starting, as it will continue, there is a free self-hypnosis/guided meditation to help you to access your own ‘Inner Sanctuary’ for you to download and listen to after you signup.
During hypnosis I often use the suggestion that the deeply relaxed calm state my client is experiencing can be thought of as a ‘resource state’, like a sanctuary deep inside, somewhere they can return to, outside of sessions when they want to.
So why do I think this is important? Well, many of my clients have said learning to access their Inner Sanctuary was beneficial for them and I firmly believe that spending a little time each day quietening the mind and body is hugely beneficial.
I think we all have inner voices; sometimes our minds are so full of them it can be hard to know which one to listen to, and, of course, the voice you want to listen to is the one that whispers to you; whispers words of love and wisdom. Quietening your mind and body, creating your Inner Sanctuary gives you a chance to connect to sources of wisdom that are normally drowned out by the often chaotic cacophony of our conscious minds. Some of you will hear words, others may find this voice will come in the form of feelings, either way with practice and time it will be there for you.
Wayne Dyer is a wonderful spiritual teacher. He believes that by listening to the inner voice of our ‘Highest Self’ we have a divine ability to manifest and attract what we need or desire. In his blog post entitled ‘Manifesting Your Desires -4 Ways to Get What You Really Really Want‘ he says:
“Go beyond the restriction of the physical plane. The purpose of the Highest Self is to assist you in this. Create an inner sanctuary that is yours alone. Go to this silent inner retreat as often as you can, and let go of all attachments to the external world of the ego.” – Wayne Dyer
I’m inclined to agree with Wayne and that is why this download is one of the first resources I am sharing with you. So I’d like to invite you to signup to my NEW Newsletter now, download the track, listen for a couple of times over the next few days and then let me know what benefits you notice.