EFT

Are You Suffering From Emotional Trauma and Upset?

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Are you plagued by thoughts of the past? Is some experience haunting you? Do you feel your thoughts are out of control? Are you scared and you do not even know why? Are you behaving in ways that you do not want and do not understand?

Have you lost hope that things will ever be better?

If you are saying ‘yes’ to any of those questions you are like majority of my clients.

Emotional Freedom Technique, (EFT or Tapping as it is also called) is the most powerful, effective, efficient and kind way of helping you release the ‘stuff’ that is keeping you from being who you really want to be. Have a look at my explanation on Youtube

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Ever Changed the Way You View Life?

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Open Your Mind Something happened on Thursday the 19th March 2015, that changed my perspective on life in a big way.

It has opened my mind so much that I want to share it, even though I would normally have kept such things very private. So here goes…

A part of me believes my family should always be happy and healthy. After all, I clearly believe that I have the ability to help others become healthier and happier. I have helped enough people, to know that there is some truth in that belief. So a part of me, feels we should always be leading from the front, always full of health and happy. I know that Debbie often thinks the same, as she has also mentioned feeling the same way.

Our Guilty Secret

So one of our guilty secrets is that our 3 year old daughter, Honey, would wake up most mornings crying and distressed. It seemed to me in particular, that every morning started early (around 4 to 6 am) with a crying unhappy child and it was getting to me. I was noticing thoughts I did not want, “it’s always like this”, “here we go again” and I knew thoughts like this would not help.

For over three years I felt a bit powerless to change it. I had a feeling that it all stemmed from the family tragedy that occurred just before Honey was born. At the time, which was just weeks from Honey’s expected delivery, we used hypnosis and emotional freedom technique daily to try and shield our unborn daughter from the flood of emotions that coursing through Debbie’s veins. These emotions, grief at the loss of her younger sister and unborn nephew during childbirth, fear that what had previously seemed safe and natural may now be a life threatening event, had overtaken those of joy and anticipation of the arrival of our baby girl.

Debbie and Pete a month or two before Debbie lost her sister and nephew.
Debbie and Pete just weeks before Debbie lost her sister and nephew in childbirth.

We were both experiencing our versions of the natural feelings of grief, sadness and loss wrapped up with those of fear. I feel that we did the best we could, but it is also my belief that Honey had learned that life was scary and distressing even before she was born and so maybe that was why she woke up each morning sounding distressed.

“That’s Just Too Weird”
Now over the past three years there have been a sequence of events that has pushed me towards believing in our bodies subtle energy systems. Possibly being more open to that concept, I also came across EFT Founder Gwyneth Moss’s talks on surrogate tapping. This is where you use Emotional Freedom Technique or tapping for someone else, by imagining you are them! I’ve discarded this idea in the past without any real thought, but Gwyneth’s background is in science, she graduated from Cambridge in physics and worked worldwide as an oil exploration geophysicist and project management consultant before retraining as a therapist. Her thoughts mirrored mine when she explained her initial reaction to surrogate tapping which was “that’s too weird, that’s for Reiki people, not me”. So if someone with a proven record as both a physicist and a therapist can observe the benefits, would I be able to?  After yet another morning of being woken early to the sound of Honey crying and distressed, I very strongly suggested to Debbie that we should try surrogate tapping for her.

How We Did It
As I said before, surrogate EFT involves tapping on yourself on behalf of someone else, so we decided I would ‘pretend’ to be Honey and Debbie would be the therapist. EFT works best when you are not attached to the outcome though, so we spent some time clearing our own issues and emotional responses over Honey’s behaviour. Then I pretended to be Honey and Debbie acted as practitioner. We ended with the choices method around feeling safe and happy in her room. I just imagined myself as Honey and said what came into my mind, in the kind of words she would use. Our session probably lasted for around an hour and half, with around 1/3rd of it being the surrogate tapping.

The Following Morning
Around eight hours later at about 6:45 I almost cried as I lay in bed listening to Honey chat away to herself contentedly. I finally got up and popped my head around her door to be met with a cheery “Morning Dad”.

This blew me away. It was a like a dream. I had expected a change, committed myself fully to the process and believing in it, but such a profound difference, so quickly, was beyond my expectations.

Friday she woke with a cold and feeling ill, but still wanted to stay in her own room…

To date, each morning (to date around six weeks later), she has woken with a much more contented state of mind.

How Could This Work?
Some of you reading this will believe it a mysterious consequence, or wishful thinking. Personally I believe now more than ever, that we are all energetically linked in some way and this is why it has worked.

For now I’m avidly reading postings and books by those who understand what might be happening better than I do.

But I wonder, have you experienced anything like it?

 

The One Thing you Must Learn For your Health

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My journey back to full health from the misery of ME/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome was unfortunately longer than it could and should have been.  If we (my husband, Pete, and myself) had known back then what we did now, the trial and error we went through could have been avoided and we could have honed in on those things which not only really helped me but also have since been scientifically proven to help.

One of the therapies I tried back when I was ill was Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) otherwise known as Tapping.  I will be blogging more about this technique in upcoming blogs but, in a nutshell, EFT is a simple yet highly effective self-help tool based on energy psychology.  It is based on the Eastern philosophy of gently tapping on energy meridian points throughout the body, the same meridian points used in acupuncture and acupressure.  When I was ill, exactly how or why EFT worked was irrelevant to me; what I simply recognised was that I felt better after using it.  EFT is simply amazing at helping with emotional, physical and behavioural problems, as well as helping to overcome negative thoughts.

I was taught EFT by an experienced practitioner who showed me where the tapping points were and how to tap effectively, for maximum benefits and health gains.  Once I was taught it I could then use it myself at home whenever I needed to.  There were times when it did not seem to be as effective as it could have been and it was then that I knew it was time to see the practitioner again as she seemed able to ask the right questions to bring up emotions that might have been hiding under the surface and which I was too reluctant to tackle myself.  However, in general, tapping at home several times a day seemed to really help me feel more relaxed, which ultimately helped me feel physically better as well.

As I said, at the time, I did not really care how EFT was helping me, only that I knew that it was.  However it is really interesting now with hindsight to read emerging research on EFT which scientifically demonstrates the physical effects EFT can have and why it was so helpful to my recovery.

A randomized, controlled trial study(1) has recently shown how EFT can have a physical effect on the body by affecting the biochemical marker of stress called cortisol.  Cortisol is a hormone, often referred to as the ‘stress hormone’ as it is often elevated when we are suffering from stress, anxiety and depression.   In this study, 83 participants were divided into three groups.  Group 1 were given one hour of traditional psychotherapy, ‘talk therapy’, group 2 were given one hour of EFT and group 3 were the control group and given no interventions.  The cortisol levels of each group were measured before and after treatments.

The results were staggering.  There were no changes in the cortisol levels for participants in group 1 and 3, but in group 2, the EFT group, the cortisol levels decreased by 24%.  The researchers were so amazed by this response they thought that there must be an error in the readings and they recalibrated their equipment and retested.  After a lot of retesting which showed the same results, they finally accepted that there was nothing wrong with their equipment: EFT worked!

If one single session of EFT can have such a dramatic reduction in cortisol levels, imagine what regular tapping could do for your health?

As we have seen in our webinars, the stress response which is responsible for elevated cortisol levels has wide-ranging, debilitating physical affects on our body.  Something which starts life as an emotion or a negative thought can actually impact in a very real, physical way on how we are feeling, exacerbating our symptoms and hindering the body’s natural healing response.  In my case, the insidious impact of cumulative stressors which had crept up on me and which not only meant then when I got ME/CFS my body was already in a compromised, weakened state but which also kept me ill for so long, was a key factor in my illness.  Working with our clients, we know that I was not alone.  So many sufferers are hindered by the effects of stressors which are keeping them stuck in ill-health, it is really tragic and frustrating that not more is being done to make sufferers aware of what can be done to help them.

Looking back with the knowledge we now have from the researchers, I am convinced that learning and using EFT was a key factor in my recovery.  (In fact, it is now a key factor in my life, as when I recovered I went onto qualify as an Advanced Practitioner of EFT!)  We now know how important this simple tool is for our clients and teach it to them so that we are really putting control of their health back into their hands, or rather at the tip of their fingers.  If you would like to know more about this amazing tool which can revolutionise your health see Pete’s YouTube video and join us for one of our workshops and tap yourself back to health 🙂

Debbie

 

References

1. Garret Yount, Audrey Brooks and Dawson Church,The Effect of Emotional Freedom Technique on Stress Biochemistry; A Randomized Controlled Trial, Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease,2012